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With the shocking news features of the Baby-stealing Ring of Spain, first attentioned in the '80s, as was highlighted last week , it immediately prompted our recall of this thread, immediately thinking, what of step-parent adoption and child adoption by relatives ... Any thoughts?
sorry case! I would NEVER EVER choose a guy over my son.....I rather live a life without love than live a life without my son. A child deserves to be wanted & loved. Its best for the child's safety that the child should remain where he is wanted. The "husband" & "mother" sound like heartless people....Wouldn't want someone like that around a child anyway. Best home is a safe home.
@kaline....Would be excellent BUT there should be strict guidelines to protect the child.
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Vinaka Nisi. Isn't it surprising that a biological parent would consider putting a child up for adoption, without checking on the bare necessities? But it does happen, most especially in Fiji's history. There was a big resurgence of this kind of "adoption" around the 80s, 90s and early 2000s, highly possibly earlier too, where Fiji's children were adopted to Latinas in NY (the Bronx) - a specific case we know of 3 siblings, who should be around 43 - 47 now; Some were sent to Hawaii, Britain and Australia, and they tended to like the more Polynesian-looking children, said to have been adopted in to families where one of the receiving couple was Fijian - which wasn't always the case, for a small yearly compensation fee. These are the cases we know of. No checks whatsoever as you'd highlighted Nisi. Simply - there was an interest - parent agrees to legally relinquish rights to child - adoption papers are drawn - adoption is approved - they are transported to would-be parents. The other alternative, there is an interest - children are put on a plane bound for whichever country with a parent or grandparent or a friend, possibly - bound for would-be parents - and supposedly adoption occurs on the other side. The latter riles us a whole lot. Why? Restaveks!!! Restaveks are brought in to the US using that very system, and unfortunately for our Fiji children, if they find themselves in unsuitable circumstances, nobody knows. And the parents are paid, so they tend to hurl, "Don't be selfish!" AND these parents have the tendency of sending more children, where the recipient's go-between go "Is it the child of x and y? Or x and p? Hmmm I have to think about that" ..........!!!!!
This case as we'd highlighted@the 80s case, where a specific Catholic set of nuns and priests sold children to more comfortable desperate childless couples, as highlighted in last week's dailies, where only one nun has been charged to date, reminded us of our own memories of similar instances. We for 2, were children (babies really) whose mother was given such an offer en route from India to Fiji following our parents studies, where they were offered AUS$1M to hand Ka of Kaline over, and to sign the papers in 2 days. Then when Line of Kaline was about one, seated on our Mum's lap at the "Golden Cockerel" Cafe in Suva, a white couple approached her to compensate her largely if she allowed them to adopt Line. Now this doesn't even cover all the snatch and grab attempts throughout our childhood from kindergarten to primary school (stressing out our teachers (Mrs M, Mrs M, Mrs R, Mr R in the carline at Coconut Island) and our late maternal grandmother who'd witnessed some and were engaged in the tug-of-war with would be kidnappers, which greatly disturbed our parents), which seemed to have escalated following their "Nos,"where they'd even mutilated 2 out of 3 of our German Shepherds, hanging them at the gate - beheaded.
Has the desperation to have children escalated to such a degree, where would-be parents blind themselves to the insane prices doled them to acquire a child? You've got to detect that something is wrong, if people are asking for hundreds of thousands of dollars, to millions of dollars, just as our parents consciously knew that something was not right, when offered millions of dollars for their children, one starts to wonder, as to why such-like people become hell-bent on "adopting"specific children, where they will resort to violence - kidnapping attempts. You can't help but be suspicious. Granted there are cases of adult adoption, we can't help but wonder why are couples so desperate? Offers of adoption even into ones adulthood?
The last offer presented our mother, was@US$5M each in the year 2000 - to walk away. It's unnatural. Granted we're good people lol it's just that too much is too much. Our Mum was so traumatised, that she returned crying, where we replied to her, "Don't they realise, we're not children?" From our perspective only newborns to pre-17 year olds qualify under normative adoption processes. If this happened to us - what of others experiences?
Back to improper adoptions, the media here around 2000 - 2003 were aflutter regarding some Fiji woman who'd boarded the plane from Fiji, with underage children, who weren't her children, and weren't her relatives. Apparently, she claimed to have had permission from their parents, but the law here was a little reticent to believe her, because there were too many children for one traveling adult, to have been a proper legal guardian. As a side-note, where we as Fijians understand the situation many find themselves in, where one parent might be an American resident (those working as caregivers, farmworkers, ...), we could rationalise that just maybe the said Fiji woman was helping reunite families. ... BUT the method used had all the makings of child-trafficking - hence the red flags.
The endangerment towards children - is a reality! Sometimes too close to call.